Here’s a fun fact about me: I only have about 30% of my hearing. You read that right! Hearing loss has been part of my life for a long time, but I’ve learned how to stay connected to the people I love, and that’s what matters most. I’m a social person who loves conversations, laughter and groups, even if they sometimes take a little extra effort.
Over the years, I’ve figured out how to live in a mostly hearing world. But let’s be honest, it’s not always easy. If you’re talking to me while looking away, chances are I won’t catch a word. Lip reading is my expertise, and if I can’t see your lips, the conversation turns into a guessing game. And if you’re behind me…good luck catching me in that conversation!
Crowded rooms are another adventure. When lots of voices are overlapping, my brain can’t always pick the right one to focus on. So, where I sit in a restaurant, meeting or group hangout makes a big difference. Put me in the wrong spot, and I’m nodding politely while having no idea what’s going on. Put me in the right spot, and I’m laughing along with everyone else.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that living with hearing loss isn’t about avoiding situations…it’s about adapting to them. If I skipped every noisy environment, I’d miss out on a lot of dinners and parties! Instead, I’ve picked up little tricks that make a big difference. In restaurants, I choose a seat with my back to the wall so I can see everyone’s faces. In meetings, I sit close to the speaker so I don’t miss key details. And if a friend insists on a concert, I’ll read through the lyrics ahead of time so I can follow along. Of course, there are still a few things I avoid completely, but most of the time, adapting keeps me in the fun.
I don’t expect people to make big changes for me, but I can’t tell you how much I appreciate the little things. Repeating a punchline or important information is game-changing! After all, if you ask me to meet you at noon and I hear “meet me at the moon” …guess where I’m heading! And although I love to hear your voice on the phone for a really great story, email or text is best if you’re giving me details about the next big upcoming project.
If you’re wondering how to make conversations with someone like me easier, it’s simple! Here are a few little things that really help:
- Face me when you speak. My lip-reading skills are top-notch, but only if I can see your lips.
- Get my attention first. Saying my name makes sure I’m tuned in before you start talking.
- Don’t assume I heard you. If you’re in a conversation with someone else sharing information I need to know, chances are I didn’t hear you.
- Speak naturally. No need to shout…clarity beats volume every time.
- Be patient if I ask for repeats. I promise I’m not ignoring you. I just don’t want to miss the good stuff.
At the end of the day, hearing loss is just one small part of who I am. I love connecting with people, sharing stories, and being part of the fun. Deaf Awareness Month is a great reminder that kindness, patience and maybe a little humor go a long way in making sure everyone feels included. So next time you’re talking to me, just face me, keep it clear, and don’t be surprised if I laugh and say, “Wait… what was that again?” because what it sounded like you said is absolutely hilarious, and most likely not what you actually said!
